Leading the way
Honoring Sam Durbin
Sam Durbin, co-founder of Alliance of Abilities, lived a life full of hope, purpose, and compassion. From the very beginning, Sam was at the heart of our mission. He welcomed everyone with open arms, offered unwavering support to new friends, and led by example, never hesitating to jump in and help wherever he was needed.
Sam remained a guiding force at Alliance of Abilities until his passing in 2024. His spirit, dedication, and kindness continue to inspire all of us. He was more than a leader—he was a friend, a role model, and a light that still shines in the work we do every day.
Remembering His Life
Over the past 20 years, Sam Durbin’s journey was filled with challenges, growth, and incredible achievements. No matter what life brought his way, Sam faced it with determination and heart. And a little bit of attitude!
From receiving 24-hour support to living independently in his own apartment and working in Public Relations at Alliance of Abilities, Sam showed what’s possible with resilience and support.
He became a powerful voice for people with disabilities, serving six years on the Board of Directors at the Regional Center of Orange County and leading the Consumer Advisory Team as chairperson. Sam also spent six years on the Department of Developmental Services’ Consumer Advisory Committee, including three years as chair.
His legacy as an advocate, leader, and friend continues to inspire us all.
When I’m Not Alone Documentary
When I’m Not Alone is a powerful documentary created in 2010 that shares the remarkable story of Sam Durbin.
In his early years, Sam faced unimaginable hardships, including severe abuse, lack of access to education, and time spent in and out of institutions. Labeled a “hopeless case” by doctors, he experienced homelessness and deep isolation.
Everything began to change when Sam found Alliance of Abilities, a supportive clubhouse for people with disabilities in Southern California. There, he learned to read and write, found his voice, and discovered his strength as an advocate.
Sam went on to become a published author and a passionate national spokesperson for disability rights. His story continues to inspire and remind us of the power of community, dignity, and hope.
Memorial Video
The following video was compiled and made by people who loved Sam dearly. It is a collection of memories and experiences which made an impact on countless people.
AUTHOR
With the support of Mary Shannon, President of the Board of Directors at Alliance of Abilities, Sam Durbin wrote two powerful books that continue to inspire readers across the country.
His first book, You’re Not the Boss of Me, shares Sam’s personal journey of how he overcame incredible hardships to reclaim his voice and his life. The book explores themes of self-determination, equality, resilience, and humor, while also highlighting real-life stories of triumph from members of Alliance of Abilities. It’s a heartfelt reminder that no one is ever truly alone.
His second book, Lifelines, offers practical guidance on how to build your own circle of support, a message rooted in Sam’s own experience of finding connection and purpose.
Through his books and his life’s work, Sam championed the rights of people with disabilities and inspired countless others to believe in themselves and in the power of community.
Your Not The Boss Of Me Book
Once homeless and without a support system, Sam found hope and belonging at Alliance of Abilities in Santa Ana, California. He went on to become a respected speaker and advocate, serving six years on the Board of Directors at the Regional Center of Orange County and contributing to the Department of Developmental Services’ Consumer Advisory Committee in Sacramento.
Lifelines Book
In Lifelines, Sam Durbin shares how the support of trusted friends helped lift him out of loneliness and despair—and how others can find that same kind of life-changing connection.
This heartfelt book explores the power of building a circle of support, one that surrounds you with encouragement, friendship, and care. Sam shows how having the right people in your life can double your joy and halve your sorrows.
His story is a moving reminder that none of us are meant to go it alone, and with the right support, a better life is always within reach.